Which Man Should I Choose?

Dear Momofuku,
It has always been my dream to be married and have several children. However, each of the men I have been with has given me the same answer: "In a year or two." I'm currently in my early twenties, so I know I don't have much to worry about technically, but a dream is a dream. Recently, a man offered to start with me the kind of family I've always wanted, but he is so busy and has little time to spend with me (though it is nice when it happens). I am content with him, and he wants children now. After him being away for some time, though, I fell in love with another man who makes me happier than I thought possible. Yet, when I bring up children, he says, "In a few years, we'll see." I am torn between my dream and a man who I love. I feel that I should make a choice about who to be with soon, though. What should I do?
--SC

Dear SC,
We've talked on this site a bunch of times about how Momofuku Ando set the five conditions for himself -- the goals he would have to meet in order to declare that he had succeeded in inventing instant ramen. (Here they are in a previous post: http://www.ramenadvice.com/2009/05/how-can-i-focus-on-what-matters.html.) It sounds like your conditions are (1) I must love the person I am with, (2) he must have time for me; and (3) he must want to have children relatively soon. We have also discussed how, when Momofuku failed to find demand for instant rice, he withdrew from the market immediately. He didn't want to spend years and years sinking more and more money into the impossible task of convincing customers to change their thinking.